Accept Yourself As You Are. OSHO

 

Through so many ways your unconditional acceptance comes to me for the first time in my life. I weep as I write. What is happening?

Prem Samma, life is happening, God is happening. This is what life is all about. The moment you accept yourself you become open, you become vulnerable, you become receptive. The moment you accept yourself then there is no need for any future, because there is no need to improve upon anything. Then all is good, then all is good as it is. In that very experience life starts taking a new color, a new music arises.
If you accept yourself, that is the beginning of accepting all. If you reject yourself you are basically rejecting the universe; if you reject yourself you are rejecting God. If you accept yourself you have accepted God. Then there is nothing else to do but to enjoy, to celebrate. There is no complaint left, there is no grudge; you feel grateful. Then life is good and death is good, then joy is good and sadness is good, then to be with your beloved is good and to be alone is good. Then whatsoever happens is good, because it happens out of God.
But you have been conditioned for centuries not to accept yourself. All the cultures of the world have been poisoning the human mind, because they all depend on one thing: Improve upon yourself. They all create anxiety in you - anxiety is the tense state between that which you are and that which you should be. People are bound to remain anxious if there is a ′should′ in life. If there is an ideal which has to be fulfilled how can you be at ease? how can you be at home? It is impossible to live anything totally, because the mind is hankering for the future. And that future never comes - it cannot come; by the very nature of your desire it is impossible. When it comes you will start imagining other things, you will start desiring other things.
You can always imagine a better state of affairs. And you can always remain in anxiety, tense, worried - that′s how humanity has been living for centuries. Only rarely, once in a while, has a man escaped out of the trap. That man is called a Buddha, a Christ.
The awakened man is one who has slipped out of the trap of the society, who has seen it - that this is just absurdity. You cannot improve upon yourself. And I am not saying that improvement does not happen, remember - but you cannot improve upon yourself. When you stop improving upon yourself, life improves you. In that relaxation, in that acceptance, life starts caressing you, life starts flowing through you. And when you don′t have any grudge, any complaint, you bloom, you flower.
So I would like to say to you: Don′t lose this thread that has fallen into your hands. This is the most valuable thing that you can learn here, that you can see with me - this is what I would like to impart to you all: Accept yourself as you are. And that is the most difficult thing in the world, because it goes against your training, your education, your culture. From the very beginning you have been told how you should be. Nobody has ever told you that you are good as you are; they have all put programs in your mind. You have been programmed by the parents, by the priests, politicians, teachers - you have been programmed for only one thing: just go on improving upon yourself. Wherever you are, go on rushing for something else. Never rest. Work unto death. My teaching is simple: Don′t postpone life. Don′t wait for tomorrow, it never comes. Live it today!
Jesus says to his disciples ′Look at the lilies in the field. They toil not, they weave not, they spin not - yet even Solomon was not so beautiful as these poor lily flowers.′ What is the beauty of the poor flower? It is in utter acceptance. It has no program in its being to improve. It is here now - dancing in the wind, taking a sunbath, talking to the clouds, falling asleep in the afternoon warmth, flirting with the butterflies... enjoying, being, loving, being loved.
And the whole existence starts pouring its energy into you when you are open. Then the trees are greener than they look to you, then the sun is sunnier than it looks to you; then everything becomes psychedelic, becomes colorful. Otherwise everything is drab and dull and Grey.
Accept yourself: that is prayer. Accept yourself: that is gratitude. Relax into your being - this is the way God wanted you to be. In no other way did He want you to be, otherwise He would have made you somebody else. He has made you you and nobody else. Trying to improve upon yourself is basically trying to improve upon God - which is just stupid, and you will get madder and madder in trying that. You will not arrive anywhere, you will have simply missed a great opportunity.
I accept you as you are. That is just to impart to you to do the same to others.
Jesus is reported to have said to his disciples ′I give you the eleventh commandment: love. Love others as I have loved you.′ Note that emphasis - ′Love others as I have loved you.′ And this he calls the eleventh commandment. ′The new commandment I give to you: accept others as I accept you.′
- Let this be the color of my sannyasins: acceptance. Let this be the characteristic of my sannyasins: acceptance, utter acceptance. And then you will be surprised - life is always ready to shower its gifts on you. Life is not a miser, God always gives abundantly - but we cannot receive it, because we don′t feel that we are worthy to receive it.
That′s why people cling to miseries - they suit their programming. People go on punishing themselves in a thousand and one subtle ways. Why? Because that fits with the program. If you are not as you should be, you have to punish yourself, you have to create misery for yourself. That′s why people feel good when they are miserable.
Let me say it: People feel happy when they are miserable, they become very very uneasy when they are happy. This is my observation of thousands and thousands of people: when they are miserable everything is as it should be. They accept it - it fits with their conditioning, with their mind. They know how horrible they are, they know that they are sinners. You have been told that you are born in sin. What stupidity! What nonsense!
Man is not born in sin, man is born in innocence. There has never been any original sin, there has only been original innocence. Each child is born in innocence. We make him feel guilty - we start saying ′This should not be. You should be like this.′ And the child is natural and innocent. We punish him for being natural and innocent and we reward him for being artificial and cunning. We reward him for being phony - all our rewards are for phony people. If somebody is innocent we don′t give any reward; we don′t have any regard for him, we don′t have any respect for him. The innocent is condemned, the innocent is thought to be almost synonymous with the criminal. The innocent is thought to be foolish, the cunning is thought to be intelligent. The phony is accepted - the phony fits with the phony society.
Then your whole life will be nothing but an effort to create more and more punishments for yourself. And whatsoever you do is wrong, so you have to punish yourself for every joy. And even when joy comes - in spite of yourself, mind you, when joy comes in spite of yourself, when sometimes God simply bumps into you and you cannot avoid Him - immediately you start punishing yourself. Something has gone wrong - how can this happen to a horrible person like you?
Just the other night, Ashoka was asking me ′You talk, Osho, about love, you talk of offering your love. But what have I got to give to anybody?′ He asked ′What have I got to offer to my beloved?′
This is the secret idea of everybody: ′I have got nothing.′ What have you not got? But nobody has told you that you have all the beauties of all the flowers - because man is the greatest flower on this earth, the highest evolved being. No bird can sing the song that you can sing - the birds′ songs are just noises, although they are still beautiful because they come out of innocence. You can sing far better songs, of greater significance, of much more meaning. But Ashoka says ′What have I got?′
The trees are green, beautiful, the stars are beautiful and the rivers are beautiful. But have you ever seen anything more beautiful than a human face? Have you ever come across anything more beautiful than human eyes? On the whole earth there is nothing more delicate than the human eyes - no rose can compete, no lotus can compete. And what depth! But Ashoka asks me ′What have I got to offer in love?′ He must have lived a self-condemning life; he must have been putting himself down, burdening himself with guilt.
In fact, when somebody loves you, you are a little bit surprised. ′What - me? The person loves me?′ The idea arises in your mind: ′Because he does not know me - that′s why. If he comes to know about me, if he comes to see through me, he will never love me.′ So lovers start hiding themselves from each other. They keep many things private, they don′t open their secrets, because they are afraid that the moment they open their heart the love is bound to disappear - because they cannot love themselves; how can they conceive of anybody else loving them?
Love starts with self-love. Don′t be selfish but be self-full - and they are two different things. Don′t be a Narcissus, don′t be obsessed with yourself - but a natural self-love is a must, a basic phenomenon. Only then out of it can you love somebody else.
Accept yourself, love yourself, you are God′s creation. God′s signature is on you and you are special, unique. Nobody else has ever been like you and nobody else will ever be like you; you are simply unique, incomparable. Accept this, love this, celebrate this - and in that very celebration you will start seeing the uniqueness of the others, the incomparable beauty of the others. Love is possible only when there is a deep acceptance of oneself, the other, the world. Acceptance creates the milieu in which love grows, the soil in which love blooms.

You ask me:

What is happening? I weep as I write.

That′s beautiful - because there are things which can only be said by tears; no word is more adequate. There are things which can only be sung in tears - they are too deep for words; only tears can relate them, convey them. Good - weep in joy, celebrate your tears. Life is happening to you.
And life happens only when there is no desire for any future, when you are ready to die this very moment. If death comes, your acceptance is so total that you will embrace death. You will not ask for even one more day′s time - for what? You have been living your life so totally, you are so fulfilled, that death can be accepted. Then there is no need to seek God, God will seek you. You just live in joy, and see - miracles start happening.
In fact, the desire for God is the denial of Him. The real religious person has no desire as such for God, there is no need. He lives intensely, he lives totally - out of that totality God arrives. God is a by-product, a consequence, of a life lived totally. And you will be surprised to know, the godly know nothing of God - because God is not separate. The godly know nothing of God, they don′t think about God, they simply live God. They are gods.
And the wise know nothing of wisdom. It is only the fools who think about wisdom, it is only the ignorant who think about knowledge. It is only the ungodly who pray to God. The really godly simply live God in their life - drinking water they drink God, eating food they eat God, swimming in the ocean they swim in God. Dancing, it is God dancing. Loving, it is God loving. The word ′god′ becomes irrelevant, because their whole life becomes godly. And acceptance is the door to it.
Learn more and more acceptance and unlearn your rejections. And if you understand this, you will understand something very significant: you will understand laughter. Otherwise the ordinarily so-called religious know nothing of laughter. The churches are empty of laughter, they have become cemeteries; they no more belong to life, they are graveyards. And the moment you enter into a church you are entering a graveyard - serious, somber, unlaughing, unloving, undancing. Look at God′s life. Can you see anything church like? Look at the trees and the moon and the sun - can you see anything church like? The church is such a human creation - and not only human but pathological, sickening. It is just not part of the flow of life. It is like a rock in the river, it hinders. God is always the God of love and laughter and light.

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The real God is always a God of laughter. Whenever you think of God think of Him laughing, think of Him rolling on the floor with great laughter, and you will be closer to God. When you really laugh, for that moment you are no more on the earth, for that moment all weight disappears. For that moment the window opens, you are divine. Whenever you laugh you are closest to the divine, whenever you love you are closest to the divine. Whenever you sing and dance and make music, that is what real religion consists of.

(Osho - The Revolution #4)