OSHO-IF YOUR ACCEPTANCE IS TOTAL, THE OTHER WILL BE HELPED IMMENSELY...

Beloved Master,
Where does care for others become interference?


Osho:
THE MOMENT IDEOLOGY ENTERS, care becomes interference, love turns bitter, becomes almost a kind of hatred, and your protection becomes a prison. The ideology makes the difference.

For example, IF YOU ARE A MOTHER, TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD. He needs you, he cannot survive without you, you are a must. He needs food, he needs love, he needs care. BUT HE DOES NOT NEED YOUR IDEOLOGY, he does not need your ideals. He does not need your Christianity, your Hinduism, your Islam, your Buddhism. He does not need your scriptures, he does not need your beliefs. He does not need your ideals, how he should be!

ONLY AVOID IDEOLOGY, IDEALS, GOALS, ENDS, and then care is beautiful! Then care is innocent. Otherwise, care is cunning! When there is no ideology in your caring -- you don't want to make your child a Christian, you don't want to make your child this or that, Communist or Fascist; you don't want your child to become a businessman or a doctor or an engineer; you don't have any ideals for your child.

And remember, IF YOUR CARE HAS NO BUSINESS IN IT, NO AMBITIONS IN IT, the person you cared about will love you forever! But, if your care has some ideals in it, then the person you cared about will never be able to forgive you!

THAT'S WHY CHILDREN ARE INCAPABLE OF FORGIVING THEIR PARENTS. You go and ask the psychiatrist, the psychoanalyst. All the cases that come to them are the cases of children whose parents cared too much -- but their care was businesslike. It was cold, it was calculated; they wanted some of their ambitions to be fulfilled through the child.

LOVE HAS TO BE A FREE GIFT! The moment there is a price tag on it, it is no more love.

OSHO
The Diamond Sutra
Ch #6: Bodhisattvahood