Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Hugging gives you an immediate contact with the child. ~OSHO~
Why is hugging such an incredibly effective therapeutic tool?
It is, and it is only a gesture. If it is true - not only a gesture but if your heart is in it - it can be magical tool, it can be a miracle. It can transform the whole situation instantly.
A few things have to be understood about it. One is: the idea that the child dies and the man becomes adolescent, then the adolescent dies and the man becomes young, then the young man dies and he becomes middle-aged, and so on and so forth, is wrong. The child never dies - nothing ever dies. The child is there, always is there, wrapped by other experiences - wrapped by adolescence, then by youth, then by middle age, then by old age - but the child is always there.
You are like an onion, layers upon layers, but if you peel the onion, soon you will find fresher layers inside. Go on deeper and you find more and more, fresher layers. The same is true about man: if you go deep into him, you will always find the innocent child - and to contact that innocent child is therapeutic.
Hugging gives you an immediate contact with the child. If you hug somebody with warmth, love, if it is not an impotent gesture, if it is meaningful, significant, true, if your heart is flowing through it, immediately you come in contact with the child, with the innocent child. The innocent child surfacing even for a single moment makes a tremendous difference, because the innocence of the child is always healthy and whole; it is uncorrupted. You have reached to the innermost core of the person where no corruption has ever entered, you have reached to the virgin core, and making the virgin core throb again with life is enough. You have started, triggered a process of healing.
When you love a person, verbal expressions are not enough; words are not enough; something more substantial is needed; words are only abstract. You have to do something! Hold the hand, hug the person, kiss the person, and embrace the person. It is going to help you both: if you can melt in the hug, you will feel both become again younger, fresher, livelier. That's the whole process of healing.
(from: The Wild Geese and the Water #4, 1981)